Guest Blog: Debunking Money Saving Tips for Weddings

There is so much information on how to save money when planning your wedding. Magazines, internet, books, family friends, well-intentions strangers that give you unsolicited advice on the street, it’s hard to decipher what works and what doesn’t. Some ideas are solid gems of truth. Some suggestions are, well….not exactly accurate. I love to save money myself, so let’s dive in… 1.    Add fake layers to your wedding cake and serve your guests sheet cake from the kitchen. If only this was true. I personally LOVE this money saving tip. However, whomever  thought of this clever idea didn’t take into consideration the time it takes to frost and design the outside of the cake. This is only speculation on my part, but I strongly feel that all the wedding cake designers convened at a secret meeting in some undisclosed location and decided to band together for a united front. Because if you go talk to a cake designer, more often than not they will still charge you a premium for those fake layers. It can’t be the flour and water that costs so much; it’s their design time. Taking it a step further, in our area (the Midwest) cake designers have told us repeatedly that it is hard to find the styrofoam layers that is needed to create the layer. And they can’t guarantee the design applied to the styrofoam (an un-natural material). The only way this option is 100% viable, every single time, is if you rent a total fake cake. There is a small section on the first layer so your cake designer can put in “real cake”. This is so you can still have your cake cutting ceremony in front of your guests. Otherwise the entire thing is fake, with fondant design. MYTH: Saving money on fake cake layers: debunked! 2.    Choosing faux flowers over real flowers will save you money. Well that all depends. Do you want faux flowers that actually look like real flowers or the stuff you get from WalMart (complete with silicon beads of water on the flower petals)? Because if you want high quality faux flowers that make you want to reach out to touch it (just to see if it is real), then you will pay high dollars for affect. In some instances, just as much if not more than real flowers. We help our clients by using faux flowers with REAL greenery on floral displays that are strategically located high above the guests heads….no one can tell the difference and our clients save money. If you want fresh florals but are not sure that you can afford them, then find a florist that can get wholesale prices. Instead of choosing 4-5 different kinds of flowers, you are better off with going with one or two types of flowers.  This is because the florist can get one shipment in and may be able to pass that savings on to you. And frankly, if you aren’t a floral person…then don’t have any. It’s 2008, do what you want to do at your wedding. Forgo boutonnières and have the guys wear a pocket handkerchief. As the bride you can have the one bouquet and have your girls carry purses, parasols, feathers, fans, candles, or nothing at all. And of course there are many, many ideas on DIYbride.com for reception decorations that don’t involve one flower at all! MYTH: Faux flowers are cheaper than real flowers: debunked! 3.    I can save money on not having a wedding planner because I have a church coordinator and venue coordinator. Well, that is actually a true statement. Venue coordinators are often included into your overall reception fee and church coordinators are usually required and either part of the church rental or a nominal extra fee. The caution here is to understand how much you can really depend on them for your needs. Sometimes saving money and relieving stress and potential problems are two very different things. To put it simply, just remember that a church coordinator is concerned primarily about her church. She has to cleaning up, lock up and most importantly, make sure no one is disrespecting their property. Likewise, your venue coordinator’s primary responsibility is to their venue. They have to make sure catering needs are taken care of, food is out timely, wait staff is being managed, bartenders have what they need. Neither of them are truly working for YOU. Not that you should expect their service to be lacking, however they haven’t spent the time getting to know you and your personal wishes or needs and your family nuances as you would with a wedding planner. It’s just important to understand where their priorities are so you don’t have higher expectations from their services. MYTH: Church & Venue coordinators save you money compared to hiring a wedding planner: slightly debunked and in the very least, food for thought. Plan on! This article was submitted by the uber-fabulous Saundra Hadley. Saundra is owner and event engineer with planning…forever events



Guest Blog: How to Create your Wedding Day Timeline

A timeline will be the single most important document you will create for your wedding. Without a realistic timeline, your wedding may have unforeseen challenges and actually create more work for you (or your family) on your big day.

As a wedding planner we create one master itinerary for our couples. The only time they will see this master plan is before the wedding. This document will  include both wedding party information and vendor information (which we like to call a production schedule). We personally like to color code because at the wedding any member of our team can easily glance at the itinerary and know immediately which tasks apply to vendors vs. wedding party. This may be an option you would like to consider, because it is important to understand both vendor needs and personal needs when planning your wedding day.

Before we begin there are key vendors that you need to contact to know their schedule needs.

  1. Your Photographer – knowing when he/she wants to begin your pictures is very important (taking into consideration if you are getting all your photos done before the wedding or some before/after your wedding). You’ll also want to check the length of time you contracted them for to be at your wedding so you won’t schedule events after they are suppose to leave.
  2. Caterer – have a detailed conversation with your caterer to understand their needs for setup (for instance; if you are providing rented linens they may want those a day before your wedding so they can set your tables). You will also need to know how long it will take to serve your wedding guests so you can appropriately gauge the timeline at the reception.
  3. Florist/Decorator – they will need to know all the setup times that they can get into the reception venue and church as well as break out times. Remember if the reception venue says that you need to be out of their facility by midnight, you can’t end your wedding at 12:00am. You’ll have to end earlier so all decorations, personal items and your entertainment has time to breakdown and remove their items.
  4. Hairdresser/Makeup Artist- this person is important because you’ll get information as to when to start your wedding day and know how long it will take to be ready to get to the church to start pictures. More often, the entire wedding party is joining you, so we see entire wedding parties starting their hair/makeup at the salon at 8am in the morning so they can all be done to make to the church for photos.


Creating the Timeline

So let’s begin. Always start at the start time of your wedding and work backwards to figure out the timeline at the beginning of your day. Let’s say your wedding ceremony starts at 1:30pm (that is what is printed on the invitation). That would mean that you need to have everything done (photos, décor, etc) by half an hour before hand. So 1:00pm because the “starting time” for your wedding for all the vendors and wedding party.

Now you will work your way backwards from that point, beginning with start time and finish time for your photography and then to your hair/makeup. You’ll want to be sure to schedule setup times for your cake,  caterer, entertainment, reception decorating, bartenders, and caterer.

We like to create timelines that are in 15 minute increments. Understanding that may not always be possible or realistic, but it is always a good idea to “pad” your timeline with extra minutes. For example, if it takes 20 minutes to get from your hair salon to the church, then simply allow 30 minutes in the timeline.

It will read:
10am         Girls conclude hair appointments and leave for the church
10:30am    Girls arrive at church to dress
11am         Photos begin for bride (insert your name), bridesmaids and bride’s family
11:30pm    Groom (insert real name), groomsmen and ushers arrive at church,  dressed

It is our experience that weddings take a life of their own and sometimes you are ahead of schedule and then behind schedule, and then suddenly on time! It’s no big deal…it all works out in the end, but you can’t foresee  one of your bride maids taking longer on their hair or a flat tire. The one constant will be the time you actually walk down the aisle, especially if you are having a church wedding. Priests and Pastors like to start ON TIME, because there may be more activities going on in the church after your wedding (confessions, mass, etc).

After the wedding you’ll want to estimate how much time it will take to complete the ceremonial activities. For instance, 300 guests and you want to do a receiving line? Let’s calculate, if it took only 30 seconds to greet every guest it would take 45 minutes! You may have backed yourself into a corner for post wedding photo opportunities.

In the timeline, you’ll want to include every single vendor you have contracted. You will want to have an arrival time and a departure time. This allows you to look at your wedding on paper and you can literally walk yourself through the day.

Finally when you have completed this master itinerary document (don’t be surprised if it is 5-6 pages long), you’ll want to remove most of the vendor information and downsize it for the wedding party to distribute at rehearsal. Your bridesmaids don’t need to know when your cake is going to be delivered at the reception venue.

You will want to include these important times for everyone:

  • start time    Hair/Makeup
  • start time    Arrival at Church
  • start time    Starting time for photos: (break it out for wedding party/parents, grandparents, children, extra family members. Usually it is not necessary for grandparents to show up 2 hours before the wedding for photos).
  • est times    General flow of the day for special events; toasts, dances, cake cutting, etc.

Finally when you have completed this beautiful master plan of your entire day, give it to someone else. NO BRIDE should be ever be holding her wedding day itinerary. If you are not hiring a wedding planner or coordinator for your wedding day, then ask a family member or friend to implement your plans. But it should NOT be a person in your wedding party. That’s right! Your MOH should be with YOU, helping YOU…not running around contacting vendors or answering the hundreds of questions that happen during a wedding.

Plan on!

This article was submitted by the uber-fabulous Saundra Hadley.

Saundra is owner and event engineer with planning…forever events



DIY Bride on TV

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Thanks to wedding & event guru Saundra Hadley from planning…forever events, my book, The DIY Bride: 40 Fun Projects For Your Ultimate One-of-a-Kind Wedding made its second television appearance a few weeks ago. That’s just about the coolest thing ever! Saundra hosts a weekly wedding planning feature on Fox TV 7 in Evansville. To check out the segment, go to http://tristatehomepage.com/content/weddingplanner and scroll down to “Local Wedding Magazines” in the segment list. Do check out the other segments, too! There’s lots of great info there.

If you’re not yet familiar with Saundra, you absolutely must visit the planning…forever blog (oh, how I love planners that blog!) to see how utterly smart and creative this woman is. Saundra is a sassy, savvy, tell-it-like-it-is spirit who’s always got the best interest of her clients at heart.



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