Comments on: Real Etiquette: Appetizer Reception Wording http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/ Empowering couples to create meaningful weddings one craft a time. Wed, 17 Mar 2010 00:18:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cheryl http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-2155 Cheryl Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:37:56 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-2155 My daughter is getting married the middle of December and we are having it on a Friday night, because of scheduling at the church. We are planning an appetizer or hors d'oeruve reception because in order for most people to attend on a weeknight we are having the wedding at 6:30. I don't think we should feel obligated to give them a meal if the wedding is later and the food probably won't be served until 8:00. Is this incorrect? My daughter is getting married the middle of December and we are having it on a Friday night, because of scheduling at the church. We are planning an appetizer or hors d’oeruve reception because in order for most people to attend on a weeknight we are having the wedding at 6:30. I don’t think we should feel obligated to give them a meal if the wedding is later and the food probably won’t be served until 8:00. Is this incorrect?

]]> By: Gretchen http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-2141 Gretchen Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:52:26 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-2141 I do not believe having a potluck reception and treating guests well go together. I do not believe having a potluck reception and treating guests well go together.

]]> By: Belinda http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1910 Belinda Fri, 09 Oct 2009 15:37:08 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1910 I'm on a very strict budget also, and found a Mexican restaurant that also does catering. I will be having a taco bar and paying $520.00 to feed 80 people. This includes as many different meats as I would like, 2 large containers of "agua frescas" (which are drinks) and tortilla chips with salsa. Of course, I will be purchasing MORE drinks and fruit/veggie trays from Sam's Club also. So yes, it is very possible. I would check with "mom and pop" or "hole-in-the-wall" type of places and ask if they cater. Mexican is usually very inexpensive. I found my guy on Craigslist. BTW, I'm in California. It might be cheaper here? I’m on a very strict budget also, and found a Mexican restaurant that also does catering. I will be having a taco bar and paying $520.00 to feed 80 people. This includes as many different meats as I would like, 2 large containers of “agua frescas” (which are drinks) and tortilla chips with salsa. Of course, I will be purchasing MORE drinks and fruit/veggie trays from Sam’s Club also. So yes, it is very possible.
I would check with “mom and pop” or “hole-in-the-wall” type of places and ask if they cater. Mexican is usually very inexpensive. I found my guy on Craigslist.
BTW, I’m in California. It might be cheaper here?

]]> By: Sarah http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1909 Sarah Wed, 07 Oct 2009 19:16:30 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1909 I really love the advise and suggestions you all provided. I have my wedding in 2 years so I'm soaking up all these great advise as much as I can. I really love the advise and suggestions you all provided. I have my wedding in 2 years so I’m soaking up all these great advise as much as I can.

]]> By: Natosha http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1907 Natosha Wed, 30 Sep 2009 20:11:31 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1907 My question is, why is "cocktail reception" appropriate etiquette wording for a dry reception, as you have suggested? My question is, why is “cocktail reception” appropriate etiquette wording for a dry reception, as you have suggested?

]]> By: Julia (Color Me Green) http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1902 Julia (Color Me Green) Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:34:20 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1902 if the $1000 budget is just for food (which is what Anonymous says, he/she doesn't say anything about it having to cover beverages, plates, etc) then it might be doable. reminded me of this wedding where they did a sandwich buffet for $1500 (i think) - you might find some good advice in there <a href="http://forkable.blogspot.com/2009/06/cater-your-own-wedding-post-index.html" rel="nofollow">http://forkable.blogspot.com/2009/06/cater-your-own-wedding-post-index.html</a> if the $1000 budget is just for food (which is what Anonymous says, he/she doesn’t say anything about it having to cover beverages, plates, etc) then it might be doable. reminded me of this wedding where they did a sandwich buffet for $1500 (i think) – you might find some good advice in there http://forkable.blogspot.com/2009/06/cater-your-own-wedding-post-index.html

]]> By: Sarah http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1906 Sarah Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:41:37 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1906 While I agree that she needs to treat her guests well, and that doing so includes feeding them an adequate amount, I disagree that her budget needs to be reworked. However, I think she is discovering what many other brides before her have discovered -- appetizer receptions are actually just as expensive, if not more, than feeding a meal. While it may be difficult to find a caterer to do it, it is entirely possible to serve a meal for $6/head. Serve a nice salad, a pasta with marinara sauce, a side of green beans, and dinner rolls. This is even the type of thing someone in your family could do. However, if you find a small caterer and explain your situation, they may be willing to work with you. It will take a lot of work, but you can definitely do it. Good luck! While I agree that she needs to treat her guests well, and that doing so includes feeding them an adequate amount, I disagree that her budget needs to be reworked. However, I think she is discovering what many other brides before her have discovered — appetizer receptions are actually just as expensive, if not more, than feeding a meal.

While it may be difficult to find a caterer to do it, it is entirely possible to serve a meal for $6/head. Serve a nice salad, a pasta with marinara sauce, a side of green beans, and dinner rolls. This is even the type of thing someone in your family could do. However, if you find a small caterer and explain your situation, they may be willing to work with you.

It will take a lot of work, but you can definitely do it. Good luck!

]]> By: Alce Events http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1905 Alce Events Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:19:55 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1905 You said that very well. On average, 40-50% of a wedding budget is spent on the reception. You can opt for a wedding cake and non alcoholic punch mini reception at the same location where you're holding the ceremony, thank everyone for coming and your guests leave after that. Brides that have opted for this usually do it in the lobby of their church immediately following the ceremony. You said that very well. On average, 40-50% of a wedding budget is spent on the reception. You can opt for a wedding cake and non alcoholic punch mini reception at the same location where you’re holding the ceremony, thank everyone for coming and your guests leave after that. Brides that have opted for this usually do it in the lobby of their church immediately following the ceremony.

]]> By: Kawania @ Howerton+Wooten Events http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1904 Kawania @ Howerton+Wooten Events Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:04:01 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1904 Excellent reply to this question. Great advice. Love & Soul Always, Kay Excellent reply to this question. Great advice.

Love & Soul Always, Kay

]]> By: isha | isha foss events http://www.diybride.com/2009/09/29/real-etiquette-appetizer-reception-wording/comment-page-1/#comment-1903 isha | isha foss events Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:22:34 +0000 http://www.diybride.com/?p=1765#comment-1903 Anonymous would need to cut the guest list by more than half to make this work nicely. If they want to host all their friends, perhaps the couple should offer cake, punch and finger sandwiches at the church. They could be announced, have a first dance, mingle with their guests for an hour or two, cut the cake, and then toss the bouquet on their way out. Guests would still be home in time for a late dinner. Anonymous would need to cut the guest list by more than half to make this work nicely. If they want to host all their friends, perhaps the couple should offer cake, punch and finger sandwiches at the church. They could be announced, have a first dance, mingle with their guests for an hour or two, cut the cake, and then toss the bouquet on their way out. Guests would still be home in time for a late dinner.

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